by Jennifer Searle

Created on: June 06, 2007

You can not maintain a meaningful relationship with a large amount of distance between you. Examples of this are: Two people who at one point were living in the same area, but then one or both moved away: Two people who have never lived near each other but met online and think they are in love: Then there is also military relationships where one or both people get stationed far away from their loved ones.

These are the three main examples of how or why people are in long distance relationships. The problem with being apart is not that you love the person any less, but that not being with them everyday leads to disillusionment. Communication suffers when there is so much distance between you and your loved one.

For couples who were together but then one or both move for college or work, there poses a major problem. The couple no longer communicates in a meaningful manner. They might talk to each other every day, but without the physical contact, the eye contact, and the closeness the couple will grow apart. The likelihood of meeting someone else who is right there in front of you becomes a much greater risk than if you and your lover were still in the same city. Affairs are much easier to be had with someone hundreds or thousands of miles away, because you will only know what they are telling you. Over time the relationship changes and even if the couple comes back together physically, they will probably find that their lover has changed and they no longer know each other as they used to.

For couples who meet online there are many other things going on. Most times we never really see the other person we meet online. Conversations can gravitate towards more sexual things and we never really know the other person for who they are. We only get to know the projection of who they want us to think they are. Sure some people get together online and end up moving to be with one another, but that works out very rarely.

For couples who are either in the military or in a relationship with someone who is, this can be a trying experience. You have the fear of death or harm on one hand, and the fear of losing the person you love on the other. There is a high rate of military spouses who cheat on their loved one, simply because they are lonely. If you search on places like Adult Friend Finder you will see a lot of military wives and girlfriends looking for a discrete relationship while their honey is away. The spouse overseas or stationed in another state will find that they

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