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My alarm rang at 5:45 AM. I awoke immediately, turned off the alarm, and went to the kitchen to start the coffee. Then in to wash my face and out to get the morning paper. Back into the kitchen for a cup of coffee and then settled down to wait for 6:00 o'clock to roll around.

At precisely 6:00 AM I picked up the phone and dialed her number. The phone rang several times before she answered.

"Hey baby" she said as she picked up the phone. Her sleepy voice sounded so good in my ear.

"Hey sweetheart, sleep well?" I asked.

This scenario had been playing out for just over a year. Each morning that we were apart I would call at 6:00 AM on weekdays; I called at 8:00 AM on weekends that we were apart.

Of course, we tried to spend each weekend together, but that wasn't always possible. Three hundred miles separated us and our jobs at times did not allow us to travel to see one another on weekends.

Even though three hundred miles does not seem like a lot, it does constitute a "long-distance" and thus our relationship was considered a "long-distance love".

Did it work?

You bet it did. We continued our long-distance love for almost two years. We spent as much time together as we could, but most of our time was spent apart. We talked on the telephone daily (and nightly). We enjoyed a glass of wine each evening as we watched television together; her in Dallas and me in a small Central Texas town. It wasn't easy, but we did it.

Why did it work?

It worked because our relationship was and is much more than just physical. We have a true connection. We feel that we are each other's soul mate; and because we feel it, we are. After all, perception is reality.

Our long-distance love worked because it was truly love. It wasn't a fleeting thing. It was built on trust and respect, caring and sharing, loving and living. When we were together we were like teenagers (even though we were both in our 50's) and we made out every chance we got. There were some Saturday's that we didn't even get out of bed except to answer the door (thank goodness for pizza delivery or we may have starved!).

Our long-distance love worked because we wanted it to, and I think that is the key. Both parties have to want the relationship to work, and then have to put forth the effort to make it work.

Personally, I think that long-distance relationships have the a tremendous capacity for becoming successful long-term relationships IF the relationship is built on love.

That's really what it's all about, though, isn't it? Building a relationship on love. With a foundation in trust, caring, sharing, and love distance is not a problem.

We have been married almost two years now. We still enjoy our time together. We still talk on the phone daily, me from my job to her at hers and vice versa. We still share a glass of wine at night as we watching TV (but it's much more enjoyable sitting on the same sofa with her).

And our Saturdays? Well, let's just say that we eat a lot more pizza than we use to.

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