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One simple answer: Insecurity. Most women have trouble letting go of what every romance novels and movies they have seen, to actually be aggressive. Most women are insecure about the way they look, or just about the person who they are, thus they want the man to take them aggressively so that they know they are wanted.

I speak of this from personal experience and countless hours talking to girlfriends about their sexual behavior. Most women enjoy having a man use them as a sex toy. There are even some women who fantasize mock rape (though this is a very controversial topic, the idea of a hot stranger just taking her in the bathroom of a cafe is usually up there on the list of fantasies.)

Most women like to be dominated. This is fully in our genetics going back to the time of cave men dragging us off into a cave. However, with the feminist push today it is often hard for us to admit that we like to be submissive.

There is a problem with not being the least bit aggressive...men thoroughly enough a women who is his own personal sex kitten. This means tossing him down on the bed and jumping his bones wildly. I would have to say at least 95% of guys I talk to, have said this at one point. Men are often dominating everywhere else in their lives and so they like it when the woman takes the lead from time to time.

To be more aggressive in bed, women have to overcome their insecurity about the way their body looks, or how they will act, or what he will think. Frankly when you throw a man down and tear his shirt off he isn't thinking about how you look in a bad way; he is thinking "Oh my god! What will she do to me next?teehee."

Talking dirty is another aggressive thing women tend to shy away from. This is because we are all afraid we are going to sound stupid and ridicules when we try to do it. Trust me, nothing you say can be that bad while in the heat of the moment, most times will just heat things up more. The dirty you talk the better the sex is.

Most women are afraid to try being aggressive, but once they do it once or twice, they see how fun it is. You don't have to be mean-aggressive, just forcibly taking him as if you want nothing more than to have him right then and there. The more aggressive you become with your man the hotter he is going to get. The hotter he gets, the more orgasms you are going to get. So try it. Don't think about what you look like, or what he is thinking...once his little friend springs into action the blood from his brain is pretty much gone and he isn't thinking anything!

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