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Do nice guys really finish last?

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He rings the doorbell. You open the door and he tells you how lovely you are. Taking your hand, he escorts you to the car, opens the door, and makes sure your dress isn't in the way as he shuts the door. You think to yourself, it's refreshing to find men who still cares enough to go that extra mile. He's in that moment proud to be known as a,"Nice Guy" when you flash that kilowatt smile.

In this day and age of casual dating, it's still appreciated when a man acts like a gentleman. This nice guys finish last thought is bogus. Women, like men have preconceived ideas of the man they want to eventually marry, and most times it's a "Nice Guy" they want to create a home with.

Sure it's exciting when your in school to be seen with the coolest boy on campus. Whose heart doesn't flutter at the naughty boy image. Girls, like guys have that side to them which walks the line, but when it comes to the most important aspects of settling down into a serious relationship, a nice guy will usually win out over the wild and not so serious type.

A nice guy tends to think of the person he is with, more than the bad boy who thinks of self by delving into what it is he likes to do all the time. A nice guy, while maybe not so inclined to enjoy a night out at the opera, will forgo male ego and take his wife or date out so that he can enjoy the feeling of seeing his significant other happy. His joy comes from being the giver and not the receiver although, he isn't opposed to being on the receiving end of the nights ending when she thanks him profusely with kisses and a night of romance.

The days of chocolate, flowers, and holding hands are not outdated! I can feel the eyes of the men rolling about now and disagreeing with me, but women still like the thrill of receiving flowers and chocolates. It's those little things that "Nice Guys" do that stand out. This is even after years of being with someone married or not.

Sure the expectations of the sexes have changed, both male and female are constantly shifting the ideas of what they want in relationships. Yet, some things remain the same. Just as a man wants to take home a "Good Woman" to meet his mother, so too a woman wants to bring home a, "Nice Guy"

So do nice guys finish last? In my humble opinion, I don't think so. In the beginning it might seem that way, but it's usually the nice guy who is closing the door at the end of the day, as he and his woman walk into their home.

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