Let's face it, people change. Everyday we change. You may not realize it is even happening, but it is. You go from being that cute happy just found love couple who's day is filled with nothing but romance on your mind and a song in your heart to the wife and husband who sit back 3 years later and wonder where it all went.
When love is new it moves us. It triggers a feeling of everlasting happiness that we just can't seem to shake, it's almost like a drug. You like the way it feels, your body likes the way it feels. You're on cloud 9, floating in your very own personal bubble. Then, he proposes to you. You cry a little give him a kiss and tell him he's the only man in the world for you. The big day comes. after months and months of planning it's finally here, the day you can share your happiness with the world. The happiness you thought would never end.

Three years later, things aren't as happy as when you were just dating. You wake up, make the coffee, turn on the TV, sit down to watch while the coffee makes it's gurgling sounds as it brews, wishing it would hurry up and finish just a bit quicker so you can get that morning perk you so desperately need. Your body isn't running on that love high it once was.
You're comfortable with the other knowing your good sides and bad sides equally. You don't feel the need to smile as much or to make sure you look your absolute best for him or her. Once a relationship reaches that comfortable stage. Couples tend to not work as hard at it. They think everything from this point onward will work out on its own. This is a sure cause to a failed marriage. Every day for the rest of your life from here on is a challenge.
You can not expect that the fairytale won't end. There is no such thing as the perfect man or woman. Regardless of what most might think. You are allowed to have your good days and bad ones. Having someone there to share that with can help to make it easier. You can not however, expect that your spouse is always going to be in the mood to deal with it. So, if you are among the thousands of people that are hoping for that happy ending. Here's some ways that can help you and your marriage to live happily ever after.

Express your concerns but do it in a way that does not seem as though you are yelling at them or venting on them.

Love them for who they are. Good bad and ugly. Marriage is about compromise. It isn't about who can win the argument.

Bite your tongue. Sometimes letting the other

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