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Children are wonderful gifts from God; loving them also means we have to care for them even in their most difficult scenarios. A child cannot be the same with his peers, just as they all have different looks so also do they have different issues that bothers them.
A difficult child is one that exhibits a totally different character from that which he/she is supposed to exhibit, such characters that are exhibited includes; stubbornness, lies, stealing etc and the act of destruction. These and many more attributes are what difficult children posses and show unto their family and environment; if not properly checked by the parents the children will grow up having juvenile delinquency as the result of the parent failing to checkmate the difficult tendency in their attitudes.

There are so many ways of dealing with children with various degree of difficult with the aim of changing their attitude for the better.
Combining the African context and the western context of correcting and dealing with difficult children and getting them to have a change in attitude these are the ways to get your child an attitude adjustment.
Firstly, the parents must understand the difficulties of the child; knowing why the child is so difficult is the foundation of adjusting the attitude of the child, the parent must see from the point of view of the child before trying to change the attitude of the child. With this recognition of his problem; the child will be able to give the necessary medium for the change in attitude.
The next way to deal with difficult children and getting them to change their attitude is to create an environment within and outside the home that encourages a change in the attitude of the child, let us face it without an enabling environment for change; change cannot occur. Hence the parent must create that channel and environment for a change in the behavioral attitude of the child.
Difficult children take a longer time to be corrected; hence the next step to effect an attitude change in them is to adopt an adequate means or method of discipline in order to correct the difficulty in the child, this is to apply some measure of force to change that difficult attitude in that child, the method or style of discipline depends solely on the parent of the child.
The fourth method or means of changing a difficult child from his/her bad attitude is to show the child the consequences of not changing their attitude; a good way of showing them the consequences is to take the child to a prison yard telling them that the consequences of stealing and bad behavior is the prisons where they would be cut off from the rest of the world. This cold realization would bring about a positive change in terms of attitude.
The next way is to give the child a little form of responsibility in the family, this will allow him to know that responsibility brings about a form of belonging and the adaptation of the attitudes that are required in the family; believe me there will be an attitude change.
The last means of dealing with difficult children to adjust their attitude is through therapy and counseling. This is the last resort when all the means of changing their difficulty has failed, the counseling would aid the parents and children to change the attitude of the child.
The best way I feel to change the attitude of a difficult child is to show them love and not condemn them that they are too difficult. Love touches the difficult spots of every human being. Show some love as a parent to a difficult child.
Above all, please always pray for your children. Thank you.

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