Divorce has been increasing at an alarming rate, while these divorces are continuing is anyone thinking about the children? These kids are the casualties of an epidemic that is tearing through our society. Family values have fallen by the wayside. The words, "Until death do us part," has changed to "Until I feel we need to divorce." Where is the commitment? Are we a society of quitters?

Our kids suffer, they go through depression, and the distress parents put their kids through by refusing to be together at any social function that involves the child, such as a baseball game or a school play, adds to their depression. Of course "Little Johnny" will smile and say "That's okay," hiding his pain. They blame themselves, their grades fall and they are more likely to quit school. They are torn between whose house to go to for the holidays and birthdays. Children will also take on the role of protector for both parents, not wanting to hurt them if they enjoyed themselves at the other parents house, these thoughts they will keep to themselves.

Some people would say to get the divorce, so the child doesn't suffer with the tension in the house, but is it worth the risk of putting the children through the anguish of being in a single parent home? Single parents feel overwhelmed having to take on the role of both parents, both mentally and financially, and could become depressed. Divorce lessens the family paycheck down to one income, and may cause the parent to apply for state aide.

All of this is happening because someone wasn't happy. there are resources out there to help save a marriage. Of course if the marriage is plagued with abuse then by all means the marriage should be dissolved, but a majority of marriages are in low level conflicts and could be easily worked on. Marriage isn't easy; it takes hard work and compassion. People need to take the time to get help, whether its talking with a friend, clergyman, family member, or to each other. Before a divorce occurs every angle needs to be examined.

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