by Simi Brown

Created on: May 27, 2007

As the wedding day looms ahead a sudden transformation can overcome the most shining, composed bride. Suddenly, she is caught up in a whirlwind of wild mood swings, relentless perfectionism, and the desperate need to control everything. Bridezilla has arrived and she is wreaking havoc. If you are a bride who is battling the "bridezilla syndrome" or you are looking for ways to prevent it, here are a few tips:

1. Do something for yourself at least three to four times a week. Take a walk, go to the beach, see a movie... do things that will get you out of the house and take your mind off the wedding.

2. Every now and then also make sure to do activities that are quiet and relaxing and where you can be by yourself without being disturbed like taking a warm bath or practicing deep relaxation techniques.

3. Make sure to have those around you to whom you can delegate certain aspects of the wedding. This team of people shouldn't be too big. Three to five is a good number.

4. Make sure that you have at least one good friend to whom you can vent all of your frustrations (provided she is willing of course).

4. Whether or not to involve your future husband really depends on your personalities. Sometimes having your fiance involved can be a big help. Other times it can add unwanted pressure to an already stressful situation. Try it out. If you start seeing daggers in each other's eyes then it's probably a good idea to pull back and rely on others instead.

5. Try to keep some perspective on the situation. Your wedding day is just that- one day. It is one day in what will hopefully be many days, months and years together with your future husband. Things don't always turn out exactly as we hope them to. The less importance you put on things being just so, the less stressed you'll feel when things don't go as planned.

6. Give yourself some slack. Planning a wedding isn't an easy task. So if bridezilla does pop out every now and then, don't be so hard on yourself. Know that if you let her, she will just as quickly go back to where she came from.

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