by Akramah

Created on: May 25, 2007

It is very difficult to accept the end of friendship, marriage or the life of a relative or close friend. The pain often lingers and may make it difficult for a person to function as he or she is known to. It could also lead to extreme depression or generate other health issues. I know this may sound absurd but sometimes people hold on to the pain not because they can't let go, but because they don't want to drop the idea of vengeance or because they feel it's a responsibility they owe to the departed.

Whatever the case may be, we owe ourselves the responsibility of getting over the loss of a loved one. The first step through it is shedding as much tears as possible. This works for a majority of people though it doesn't work for some. Crying is very good for purging emotions. When tears are shed over loss, the pain subsides. When the pain subsides, moving on becomes easier.

The next step is getting back into regular routine. It is unreasonable to pretend we can forget such a loss occurred. However, if we are able to get back into our regular routine, the pain continues to decrease.

The third step is opening up to others about the loss. There is therapy in talking about loss. Sometimes, the response of others may open the floodgates for more tears. It could also open doors for words of encouragement and inspiration. Of course, you must not let your loss cloud your judgment. You must be careful as to whom you talk to. A counselor or therapist would be best but sometimes a truly trusted friend is a great substitute.

If the loss is a break up or divorce, the information shared should not be negative things about the other partner. You never know what may bring you back into each other's arms again.

Generally, people have different ways of getting over the departure of a loved one. Some take refuge in music; others, in friends. If, however, you turn to food, alcohol, drugs and thoughts of self-destruction, you lose twice.

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