by Holly Rogers

Created on: May 25, 2007

There is nothing more romantic and personal on your wedding day than writing your own vows. However often one partner is alot more keen to do so than the other, with alot of men being quite reluctant to pour their emotions out in public, or just feel intimidated by the pressure of writing something that sounds good.

So the best method for writing your wedding vows is to write something that makes sense to you and your partner. It needs to sound like you and it needs to be something you are comfortable with saying. There is no point writing some amazing poetic-like vows if you are not at all the poetic type. That might sound fantastic, but is it truely you? No. So write what you feel... not what you feel sounds good.

Writing wedding vows will never come our perfect on the first attempt. Like any good assignment or speech, you will need to rewrite several drafts. However, the best way to start is to just write what you feel. Think about your partner, why they are special to you and what you want to tell them on such an important day. Let those thoughts guide you. It does not matter if your first draft makes little sense. Just get those feelings out there and onto paper, so that you have something to work with.

Once you have an idea of what you want to say, then you can work on formatting it so that it sounds legiable and makes sense to you and your partner. Put those original thoughts into sentences about why you are there, taking the big step of marriage with this person.

If you would like your vows to be romantic, be poetic if it is in your nature, or simply describe why you love them and what it is about them that makes you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If you want your vows to be funny, add in jokes from your life together so far. Even adding in a couple of lines from a song you both relate to can be very effective when it comes to writing your vows.

Have fun with it. Do not see it as a chore, or feel like you're back at school. No one is grading you on this. No matter what you say, your partner is likely to remember the words forever, because they come from you. Do not try to add in big technical words that you might stumble over. Keep the vocuabulary similar to that which you use every day. It is a formal affair, but the vows are meant to be personal, not professional.

Above all else, just remember to say how you feel!

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