by Kristal Stafford

Created on: May 25, 2007

The irony in a sexually-based relationship is that, a commitment is still formed even when the two parties involved believe they are committing nothing to each other. If there is an agreement, unspoken or otherwise, between two people to not allow any other emotions into the relationship, a commitment is developed.

Why, as sexual, emotional human beings, create boundaries just to break them? The sexual nature of man, for those who hold either spiritual or scientific views on the beginning of, and procreation, of man, is founded on boundaries. Our spiritual beliefs, varying across nations, shape our views on what are inappropriate sexual relationships. Society typically turns its head to an independent, virile, and sexual young man, while judging the sexually liberated young woman, blaming her for the descent of the family.

Could it be that all this liberation and control is just another good old fashioned way of rebelling against what we've been taught, at home and in the society in which we were brought up? If we establish a sex-only relationship, then we're going against the norm and taking control of our emotions. We commit to commit to nothing.

As part of human nature, I believe we have to connect to something to feel alive. Whether it be totally physical, emotional, or spiritual, that connection feeds a void that would leave us disconnected. A sex-only relationship is just a physical commitment until one person feels the need to be committed to another for the emotional fulfillment, thus creating another commitment.

They are definately not the best, or the worst relationships. If one's needs change along the way, then the commitment is broken. It can sometimes be difficult to break off these types of relationships, especially if the relationship has endured through years. It's very possible that through all the planning, and negotiating of terms, that over time, the rules of engagement somehow change and all the control we thought we possessed was never really ours.

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