Marriage. It is what you make of it. It is a process that requires two people giving 100%. I always tell my husband I would have the highest self esteem if " I could see myself through his eyes".

Our marriage is what we make of it. Now I am not saying it is perfect. Things definitely changed along the path. We had two babies back to back (13 months apart). Children have a way of changing things a lot. Not as much time for one another yet we always make time for one another. We have cuddle time on the couch every night at 9:30 p.m. The kids have been asleep for a while and we just cuddle. He doesn't have to say anything and I don't have to say anything, although we usually talk.

If anyone that was getting ready to venture down the aisle, I would tell them that communication is the only way for marriage to work. If my husband didn't know something bothered me then he would continue to do it and I would continue to get agitated. There would never be anything done about it. So, we are open and honest. And to be honest sometimes it hurts, but at least we always know how one another feels about something. I don't mean we share everything. I am a girl, and I keep some stuff to myself, but it is stuff he only needs to know on a need to know basis.

If twenty years from now he still looks at me the same way with his soft brown eyes, then I know that I gave 100% everyday to my marriage.

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