by Kelli Sellers

Created on: May 21, 2007   Last Updated: March 07, 2011

Learning that you don't always have to be right can help you to overcome fights with your spouse - and even avoid them. A conflict always begins because two people both feel that their way, idea, etc., is the proper way or the only way. The sooner we all learn that none of us are in charge, the better off we will be.

God is the only one who knows everything. If we could all realize this and give up on always trying to be right, there would be a lot less arguing, fighting and killing in this world. Of all the people who read this article, the next time they have an argument with their spouse, they could say, "Instead of arguing about this, let's pray about it. And when the answer comes we will know what to do." Just think of how many hurt feelings could be avoided.

For those of you who feel an argument is unavoidable, my suggestion would be to voice your opinion once, then leave the room or the house to avoid further conflict. When two people argue, it is the hurtful words they use that cause bad feelings. It is much easier for someone to forgive, apologize, and possibly even be swayed to see things the way you do when you have not caused hurt feelings by saying things you did not mean.

Some of you may be married to someone who will not ever agree with you, and might not be willing to pray about it, or even won't allow the fight to die down even if you back away. I was there once, so I pray for you to find a way. Life is not long enough to live it fighting constantly. If this describes your relationship, you need to be praying. Satan wants to destroy anything good. If you feel your relationship is worth working for, then prayer is the best investment you can make in it.

While I don't condone divorce, I do feel that God only blesses those marriages that were entered into by following his divine plan for your life. If you are not completely sure that you are with your soul-mate (the person God meant for you to be with), then maybe you should ask for God's guidance in finding that person. Yes, I have read the Bible, and I know what it says about marriage and divorce, but I don't believe that God acknowledges all marriages. I believe that if you deviate from His plan, you will end up where the Devil wants you, and you will be unhappy. God wants to help you get to the place where He wants you to be, and that is the only place you will find happiness.

I believe that when we are all born, God has a plan mapped out for our entire lives, and if we alter that plan by not following God's will, then unhappiness will come to us. Most people think when someone dies or something bad happens that it must have been God's will. I believe that while we cannot change God's mind about his plan for us, we can alter it by our sins and the way we live our lives. God did not give us this ability because He wants us to alter His plan. He gave it to us because He wants us to choose to do things His way, the right way, the only way in my opinion, because anything else is just inviting Satan to interfere.

Some of you are probably thinking, this girl needs to be writing in the Christian category, because this category is about relationships, not God. I say to you, it is all about God...especially our relationships, because without Him, there would be no love.

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