by Xanderville

Created on: May 21, 2007

STOP, LOOK and LISTEN it is time to cross that road.

STOP thinking about the past and prepare yourself for the future.

Sadness is a part of life, bitterness is a choice. It is naive to think that we are all free from heartache, pain, disappointment and more so those feelings we believe to be caused by a broken heart. It is the way we react to all these feelings and emotions that allow us - or prohibit us - to make the transition into becoming confident independent single women. With every occasion that makes us feel bitter and resentment towards the idea of a relationship, there is a small stream of light. Which, if we allow ourselves to follow (sooner rather than later), will help the bitterness fade and the next stage of our lives and relationship experience, or success, commence.

LOOK to yourself for guidance.

There can only be one person responsible for your happiness and pleasure. YOU! Life is too short to be spent pleasing the people we meet and enter into relationships with alone. We need to take responsibility for our own happiness and make choices with ourselves in mind. In an ideal world; boy meets girl, boy likes girl, and boy keeps girl happy, ever after. However, in a society filled with challenge, agenda and emotion, the fairytale ending is harder to find without the right person in mind to start. You!

Once again, the only way to commence making the right decisions in life and lose the "bitterness" stamped on your forehead, is to look to yourself for the answer to what type of behaviour, people and experiences will potentially make you happy. The world is full of wonderful people, when we please ourselves and are happy with ourselves it is easier to attract people at a similar place in their lives and share the joy together without feeling challenged and scared.

LISTEN to the lesson learned. Relationships don't fail simply because he/she says so, or he/she cheated on you, or he/she stopped calling you, or you just don't feel happy with him/her anymore etc. Relationships end because, whatever situation you were in, this was not the best situation for you. Yes, we need to grieve, yes we feel pain, yes we are bitter, but there is no greater joy than knowing we have the opportunity to meet people with great, fun, positive and exciting plans for you and them in mind.

Relationships are not supposed to be easy, otherwise we wouldn't experience and develop concrete views, ideals and standards. The point is, learn from your mistakes, take the lessons on board, and be prepared to enjoy the next stage of your life.

Yes, life may have left a temporarily bitter taste in your mouth, but no one else can be responsible for washing it down for you. We each hold our own glass, and after we take that first sip, whether it be half empty or half full is a matter of individual perception.

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