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There are certain do's and don't to observe on your first date. Let's begin with
some don'ts:
Don't overdress: If it's a movie date, wear something casual and feminine. Don't be too glitzy. It'll make him feel under dressed and uncomfortable.
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Don't under-dress: Frayed jeans with holes at the knees are good for the farm, but not for going out. (Wear something in-between, like a stylish pair of dress pants and a sexy little top. Or better yet, a soft, clingy dress.

Don't appear desperate or humble: "I'm so glad you called. If you hadn't, I would've spent the evening cleaning out my pocketbook. Most men take my number and I never hear from them again." Honesty worked for George Washington. It's not going to work now. Instead, keep your self-esteem high in his eyes. If you feel good about yourself, so will he.

Don't order the most expensive item on the menu: But don't order the cheapest either, like a salad and extra bread. Men don't like to feel that they're being taken advantage of. But the other extreme can make them feel equally uncomfortable.

Don't appear like a scared rabbit: Trembling hands or lips are not tantalizing. Take a few deep breaths before you meet him. Or sip a glass of wine. Don't however, get sloshed. A drunken woman is worse than a quivering one.

Don't talk about other men: If he asks about previous entanglements, be as evasive as possible. A loose tongue at the beginning, can cause after shock.

Don't offer to pay for the meal, or half of it: Leave your women's lib attitude at home. He'll either get insulted or get used to it. Either way, you lose.

Don't ask him when you'll be seeing each other again: Let him say when. (Unfortunately, it's still a man's world.) And when he does, don't jump and down like a pogo stick.

Don't keep asking the time: That's a sure way of expressing boredom. When one is having a great time, one doesn't care about time.

Now for the do's"

Do let him suggest a restaurant: Most men prefer to take the lead. It makes them feel masculine and also keeps the meal within their budget.

Do act self-confident:

Right:
Him: You look beautiful.
You: Thank you, you look pretty cute yourself...

Wrong:
Him: You look beautiful.
You: Yuck, ugh, phooey, gooey, ehhh...

Do toast to happiness: But refrain from anything heavy like: "Here's to a lasting future together, forever and ever, from this day forth, for better or for worse, etc."

Do smile often: Grouches are simply not sexy.

Do offer him a taste of your food: Don't, however, be overly persistent. If he keeps waving his hand "no," or has to twist your wrist to prevent you from shoving food down his throat, take the hint, for heaven's sake.

Do appear interested in whatever he has to say: Look in his eyes as he speaks and occasionally contribute something witty or interesting to the conversation. Do not overreact.

For Instance:
Him: I'm divorced two years. My wife and
I couldn't get along.
You: OHMYGOD! I DON'T BELIEVE IT. THAT'S JUST AWFUL.
WOW! HOLY SHIT! A WHOLE TWO YEARS. WHAT A DAMN SHAME.

Do thank him for a lovely evening, without being overly grateful:
Right
"I had a lovely time. You're quite a guy."

Wrong
"Thank you so much for taking me out, although
you shouldn't have spent so much on me. I'm
really not worth it."

Rember the three c's: charisma, confidence and cheerfulnes.

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