The Singles of the World Are Miserable and Mourning

It's really bad to make steeping generalizations in life because when you do, the next day you run into someone who defies your generalization-by a landslide. That being said, I think anyone who tells you that they are single and happy is selling you the Brooklyn Bridge for the highest price possible. I am single and I am miserable. I am not a miserable person nor am I miserable in all aspects of my life. But I am miserable because I really want to be with someone and it seems as though the someone for me is missing. What do I mean by this?

I have done everything from fall deeply in love with men that I thought I was supposed to be with to casually date. And I am upset. None of them so far have worked for me. They all had serious problems that range in complexity from the simple bad temper and insulter to the much more serious physical and verbal abuser, disrespecter of one's spouses and the financially destitute and unemployed. Sorry. These things don't work for me. And any normal person that would be healthy enough for you to aspire to date will tell you the same thing. So basically I am miserable because I am single, dying not to be and absolutely unconvinced that there is a man out there with a clue.

Now you might be saying to yourself that I expect a lot. I don't. I expect first, that we will get along for the long haul. This is not hard to figure out. When someone is truly ready for a relationship, they know themselves fairly well. They know what works for them and what doesn't and they can spot the chemistry and the qualities that they are looking for in another person-quickly. I don't care what anyone says, it's true. And if the initial chemistry and qualities are not there, nothing will be there. In a rare instance the person might "grow" on you. But then that usually means they've adapted to you or changed in some way to fit.

Beyond the chemistry and the qualities, I expect you to behave. What does that mean? That means have a job. I don't care what it is, just do something. That means do your best to respect your past-ex-girlfriends, boyfriends, wives, and husbands. After all, you loved them at one point, just be civil. Because I can assure you that the way you have treated them is a direct reflection of how you are going to treat me. That means don't have a drinking, drug or serious temper and abuse problem that I have to baby-sit. I want to love you and share my life with you not lose you, sacrifice my happiness and have to potentially go to law enforcement or flee for dear life when I am black and blue. Beyond that, I don't expect much and if I like you, I'd be happy to date you. But for now I am miserable. Because I don't see you. I have no idea where you are or how to find you. And I have given up. Because I just don't know where you are or how to find you.

And even worse, those few that really do have a chance with me have been temporarily lost. I hope they are not lost forever, but for now, I don't have their phone numbers, I don't know where they are and I don't know how to find them. Poor me. So, am I single and happy? Not really, but I'll live, I guess. And so will all the other single people of the world. Or at least that's what they tell you.

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