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Letting Go of that Person you Love

Sometimes we just have to let go. It doesn't exactly seem right to us but sometimes you have to let a person find there own way or you yourself have to find your own way.

As parents raising children we become so bonded that we almost never want to let go. They are ours forever we think. And we are their parents forever, but not to own, but to let go. We have been making choices for them all through their growing up years and think we have to continue making choices. But we have to draw a line somewhere. Children need to grow up even when they seem to be grown up. We have to allow them to finish their growing up process which is the beginning of Letting Go.

The best way to let go with your almost grown-up teenager is to send him off to college.
And then allowing him some freedom to make his own choices while in college. Always be there for him/her when he phones or needs help but still allow his freedom. Usually once through college they will want to be off on there own and it won't take too much for you to do

If you have a teenager who just graduated from High School and is directly going into a job, give him every encouragement and maybe suggest ways for him to leave and get out there on his own. A good movie that talks about this subject is called "Failure to Launch." It is about a young man with a good job who is still living at home with his parents. They want him to get out on his own, so they hire a young woman to pretend she is in love with him so that he'll want to have his own place, but the plot backfires and they fall in love with each other and he still wants to live at home. It is not always easy to let go with someone you love.

Another good way to let go of your grown-up child is to encourage their dating. Allow them freedom in dating so that they will meet someone they will want to marry. They will usually want to then have their own home and family. But then letting go of them after they are married might be hard, but you will just have to find your own things to do and stop thinking that the children need you that much. They just don't anymore, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. It just means they've grown-up.

I like to think of letting go of the grown up child that we love, like the wild animals do. Almost all animals raise up their young and then throw them out of the den to be off on their own. We of course do not like to think of ourselves as animals, but we actually are animals. Animals that can think.

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