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I was in no financial condition to pay for a lawyer or to travel back and forth between here and there.

I searched again and finally got a break-through with the phone number, only to see it changed one more time.

At that time I determined that what I felt was the best for my son and daughter was to allow them to remain undisturbed with their mother and step-father. I determined in my own mind that one day they would come looking for me.

After a few years of this and many nights wondering about them, I was able to get another phone number. This time I called and spoke to their step-father. He provided me with an email address for them. I spent the next several months sending email after email to them with no response. By this time I determined that they were either not getting them, or they were not interested in anything I had to say. I was heart broken, but my previous thoughts were reenforced.

Another two years passed. Before my father died he told me of his regrets from his divorce with my mother. He told me I had to get it straight. His last and only request of me resounded through often; often enough that I determined to set it straight.

I looked up my son and daughter on MySpace. Loe and behold they both had MySpace accounts. My son did not respond to my requests. My daughter, however, did respond. While contacting her I also made contact with her friends and adults that have daily contact with her. They had all been told one lie or another regarding my attempts to have a relationship with her. Fortunately, those folks understood that there are two sides to every story. Through these folks I was able to 'force her hand' in allowing me to have contact with my little girl.

We've been talking regularly for the last 7 months and have the beginnings of a relationship now and I'm loving it. This past Saturday my son answered the phone and has agreed to talk to me again.

My children and I would not have had to go through this had their mother and I both put the children first.

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