by John Bowie

Created on: May 13, 2007   Last Updated: May 18, 2007

'Get back on the horse!' As my grandmother used to say. She also also used to say; 'When you get off one bus, continue your journey and get on another without waiting around at the stop too long!' Its was kind of crude but i knew what she was telling me i.e don't wait around brooding too much over done business and get on with moving on to the next good thing which may be even better. Mind you I'm 30 now and have had a lot of girl friends now and never any fro longer than about a year, so maybe she may have been a little to flippant.

The fact is though that old cliche saying to do with fish and sea is true and its a beautiful colorful world out there with many people for us to meet and fall in love with over and over again, not least of all ourselves.

I've had a few relationship that have taken a while to get over and for all the advice in the world from family and friends, they just lingered and made me sick with worry I'd screwed up something special and against all rational thought I kept thinking 'what if' and 'maybe I could of..' all of which are pointless suppositories which just hinder our getting on with things and creating or meeting the next love! My mother (who incidentally never really got on with my grandmother) used to say, whenever I was moping about after a break-up, 'If you find yourself stuck in a self pitying loop after a relationship, take the memory of that person, cherish it, love it but don't regret any thats happened, just take the image and thoughts of them and put them in a shoe box in your head and put it away and snap out of!'

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