First of all: Don't let anyone make you think that being gay is anything bad or abnormal. No matter how you are, you can be sure that you're exactly the way you're supposed to be (if you believe in God you can say that it was God himself who made you like you are.) Never forget that!

It's also possible that you might find both sexes attracting. I mean you can be happily married but still fantasize about someone of the same sex occasionally.
So you should find a way to live these desires and not suppress them. But most importantly - especially if you decide to try something with a person of the same sex - that you talk about that with your current partner because no matter what: honesty is the most important thing in any relationship, and lying will often detroy it.
And don'T be afraid: If your partner really loves you he/she'll understand your feelings. And who knows, maybe even find the courage his/her own desires. Could be a lot of fun, you know? ;-)

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