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How to tell if you are gay

by Can Tran

Created on: May 10, 2007   Last Updated: January 19, 2009

Your kidding, right? When I first say this article, I just shook my head. I had to, I really just had to shake my head. I don't mean to offend anyone with this opening statement, but are you serious? But then again, not many people can tell if someone is gay or not. One prime example was the first episode of "The Real World - Philadelphia." There were two gay men on the cast, Willie and Kuramo. Willie was the more feminine one while Kuramo was the more masculine one.

There are two definitions of gay. First one is extreme happiness. Such as a very gay celebration meaning a celebration of happiness. The other meaning is attracting to someone of the same gender. I'm guessing this article topic is focused towards the ladder of the two meanings.

The two other guys MJ and Landon who happen to be white and straight didn't even think Kuramo was gay. But Willie was a dead giveaway. But you can't always go by how a person acts and dresses. A perfect analogy is not to judge a book by its cover. Assumption is the mother of all screw ups. Basically, you have to get all the facts straight. Kuramo was very masculine and he dressed in jeans, shirts, boots, etc. Nobody could tell that he was gay. This black woman named Lashonda on the cast didn't think Kurama was gay.

Then she got a bit suspicious when they talked about interracial relationships. Became Lashonda was mainly in interracial relationships. I think Lashonda got suspicious when the conversation went into same sex relationships. In the testimonial, Kuramo admitted he was gay. When Kuramo, MJ, and Landon hung out that same night, Kuramo talked about how gay bars and clubs aren't like what people portray them to be. MJ and Landon got suspicious and they straight up and asked Kuramo is he was gay.

Kuramo admitted he was gay. The gay male stereotype was broken. MJ and Landon were shocked. But they didn't care. They didn't mind that Kuramo was gay. In fact, they still got along just fine. In the past we were pretty fixated on the gay male stereotype that we're automatically assuming who's gay and who's not. I remember working at this restaurant for the summer of '03 because I needed the money and there's no calls for substitute teaching until August. There was this one waiter who was training us and he had feminine qualities.

But he was straight. Of course there are gay males that act very feminine and gay females that act very masculine. But we can't assume by the way they act or dress alone. Most of the time we can assume

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