Sex and the older adult - something I would have said 'gross' about not too long ago. I don't know why the young believe sex stops when you reach the ripe old age of what? 30?

Sex is one expression of love between a man and a woman. It doesn't need to be as frequent as in earlier years in order to be good. There are however, a few things to keep in mind.

1. Buy products to have on hand that increase moisture. Sad to say, but when you're dry, it's painful. There are many products out there to help, just look in your local drug store or Walmart.

2. It takes longer to rise to the occasion for both of you. This is awesome in that it equals a lot more foreplay. This is especially good for women who enjoy other parts of the sexual encounter as much or more than the actual act. For those who have more serious problems, like ED, there are devices and medications that can help. There are also herbs that claim to help. Go see your doctor. If you're embarrassed, find a different doctor to go to, but don't take things without checking with your doctor. This is especially important as you age and begin taking more medications for the increased health problems usually associated with growing older.

3. Enjoy the closeness even if there is no climax. Sometimes it will happen, but sometimes it won't. It's not the end of the world. In fact it's not the end of the world if you never have sex again. It's only one aspect of the love a couple shares with one another. It is only when you make a problem out of it that it becomes a problem.

4. Relax and have fun. Stress over the issues that come up between older adults can cause even more problems or cause existing problems to become worse. You've gone through a lot of bad things in your life together, you'll get through this together too and come out stronger in the end (no pun intended).

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