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I believe that Pre-Wedding stress is unavoidable. Whether you elope, have a small informal ceremony, or an elaborate evening of elegance. Instead I propose you try to reduce the stress rather than avoid it all together, lest you get so wrapped up in avoiding stress altogether that you forget to plan your wedding! There are a few ideas to help you keep the stress level out of the red:

Blow off some of that steam physically- For me it was Namaste Yoga on Fit TV, and a quick workout in the gym behind my apartments main office. You can go to a used video store and find a plethora of "cheap but good" workout videos. Not only will this help you get into shape for the big day, but it also helps relieve stress and its physical symptoms such as fatigue, frequent head aches, muscle aches, insomnia, over sleeping, over eating, loss of appetite and many others. It's simply shocking the havoc stress can wreak on your body.

Don't forget about one another- Take time to yourselves. When you feel like everything you do is wedding related and you have no time for yourself anymore (or preferably before this point), declare a wedding free weekend! Take your sweetie out on a date, something I bet you haven't done in a long time! Go to the zoo, have a picnic in the park, or go to the movies. The most important factor in this stress reducing technique is that you do it TOGETHER. This will also help build a bond between you both, making it easier to talk about what is bothering you, which brings us to my next suggestion...

TALK TO EACH OTHER- there is nothing more frustrating than coming to a brick wall in the decision making process, and feeling like this person who you are about to commit to for the rest of your life doesn't understand you like you thought they did. Take a deep breath, count to ten (corny, but it works) and stop long enough to get your thoughts together. Now, turn to your sweetie and tell them what is bothering you and explain your reasons for feeling how you do. Chances are, if an argument occurs, you are both just stressed out and feeling like something isn't going how you had hoped. So, take time out to discuss what it is you want from this. Just remember though, when it comes down to it, the only thing that matters is you both show up and say "I do."

Hobbies- Mine is music. When I feel like no one else in the world can understand what I am trying to say, I pick out a song that I feel like portrays my feelings about the current situation and I play it on my guitar as loud as I possibly can, then sing at the top of my lungs. That way I know that SOMEONE is getting it besides me, because someone else wrote about how I am feeling. For some people it's dance, others choose arts such as painting photography or sculpting. Pick some form of tangible expression and go with it!

Always remember, no one is stress free. It's part of the human condition that we are imperfect. There is always something you will be stressed about, and a little stress is healthy. It keeps you from not caring about important things like grades in school, personal appearance/hygiene, and many other vital things to our lives. So I say let's not aim for an intangible goal such as being completely stress free. A wedding is a huge deal that should not be taken lightly, so to feel a little stressed is natural. Just try to keep it a healthy level of stress, and don't fret. Love will see you through.

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