by Ambreen R

Created on: May 04, 2007   Last Updated: March 10, 2009

Every person who goes through divorce have their own set of reasons to refer to as the most frequent causes of divorce. Based on my failing marriage I strongly believe that it all boils down to the main fact that once the lines of communications are broken or even temporarily disconnected, gaps are generated. And if these gaps are not immediately filled with sincere and sensible approach it further leads to other divorce factors such as lack of trust followed by lack of respect.

This process continues and slightest disagreements will become arguments serving the purpose of adding fuel to fire and so on.

Once the downfall begins then it becomes extremely hard to reconcile and the terms forgive and forget sounds intimidating whereas on the other hand it becomes quite easy to give up any sort of reconciling efforts adding bitterness to the current situation.

The end result of the above chain reaction will eventually lead to divorce. If divorce is not the instant result it may cause other outrageous and inappropriate behaviors such as affairs, mental abuse or in some extreme cases physical abuse finally reaching the inevitable divorce.

Apart from the above mentioned basic formula and causes there are few other to name.

First of all marriage is a sacred contract and if not taken seriously and acting immature, its failure is bound to happen. Some people spend years in their miserable marriage just debating to themselves if divorce will guarantee any permanent solution to their problems or bring new unexpected problems to their existing lives. This lack of decision will only delay their divorce process which I think should be started as soon as you hear that sad little voice inside you "It over".

Misunderstandings are another cause, but they stem from lack of communication.

Lack of respect, for which I have an alternate name, as turning a deaf ear to your partner's concerns and problems. This is quite a serious issue and should be resolved at the earliest convenience in order to avoid the torturous journey to divorce.

Lack of trust. not believing in each other is a harsh blow to a marriage resulting in a broken heart, resentment and other misfortunes that may lead the path to the sad ending.

So these were some of the most frequent causes, I may have left plenty of other factors that lead to divorce. I hope this article will prove to be an eye opening experience for someone to stop the process before its too late.

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