They say that men are from Mars and women from Venus, but I would like to offer a different view. I believe men are made of wood and women are made of paper. While they all come from the same source, men, like a block of wood, usually have no clue on what their wife goes through during pregnancy, and is often found to be doing the wrong things at the wrong time.

And women, like a piece of paper, can fall apart easily during pregnancy.

Women, already a highly sensitive creature, becomes even more venerable during their pregnancy as they can experience anything from being overjoyed one day, and slip into depression another day. While it is impossible to fully understand women, there are things that men can do to help their wife overcome their difficulties during their pregnancy.

First of all, try not to come home late from work. Women during pregnancy yearn for a greater love and concern by their husband, and they hope that their husband will be by their side all the time. I know, sometimes it is impossible not to work late, but made that extra effort to come home early whenever possible just brings the delight out of your wife. Cut down the time spend on TV, and spend time with her talking about her day, and ask if she experience anything different in her body. This will show her that you are involved in the pregnancy, and that she is not alone.

Surprise her with little gifts, take her out to a nice restaurant, and go for a movie or something. Just don't head straight to the baby departments every time you go shopping, or come home every time with a baby toy, or a baby clothes, or baby books. You have lots of opportunity to do that when the baby is out, right now, put a little more focus on your wife, let her feel that your attention is still on her, and she is still loved, and she is not just a tool for your next love in life your baby.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that we should avoid buying baby stuff, or get the house ready for the new arrival. But rather, the baby should not be your only focus during this time, as your wife needs even more attention right now as compared to your unborn baby, so we need to set our priority right. I am also not saying that after the baby is born, you will have the license to give your full attention to your baby and ignore your wife. A balance need to be strike. You need to assure her that you will love her and your newborn just as much, if not more. Silly it might sound, but women do want to hear this from you, even if she knows you are the best (or worst) husband in the world. She just wants to hear from your lips, again and again and again.

If you find her to be unreasonable during this time, give in to her. You will never understand the feeling of carrying a baby in your body, the changes it will cause to you, and the discomfort you will feel. And to add with it the stress that our modern society already brings, it can be mightily unbearable. While there are no concrete proofs that stress can cause miscarriage, there are signs that stress can be a contributor to miscarriages. So it is your duty to keep her relax during this period, help a little more around the house, give her a good massage every night before she sleeps, and hack, maybe even waking up early to make breakfast for her (unless you can't even fry an egg). This will certainly let her start a new day with a right spirit, which will go a long way towards a happy pregnancy.

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