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Do you know why children throw tantrums? Because it works. Toddlers will inevitably try this method to get what they want. Sometimes it is a specific toy or treat they want, or sometimes it is attention. Whatever the reason, the best way to prevent future tantrums is to not give in.

This can be difficult in a public place. No one wants their child screaming in a store. I admit that I have been tempted to give into my child just to keep him quiet and happy in public. But this is only teaching him that tantrums work. It may be easier at the time, but in the long run it is detrimental for everyone. If your child will not calm down, leave your cart or table or whatever and go to the car. Strap him into his seat until he calms down. Discipline him however you usually discipline, and then return to the store.

When you are at home, there are a few things you can do to prevent tantrums. If your child is trying to get attention, then ignoring him will sometimes help. Refuse to acknowledge the child until he behaves properly. If his tantrum is getting out of control or upsetting your other children, put the child in his room or bed, by himself, and leave the room. Once the child is calm, bring him back out and act as if nothing happened. Remember to give your child plenty of attention when he is behaving.

Never, even after the tantrum is over, give the child what he was wanting in the first place. Even if he tells you, "I'm happy now, mommy!" and gives you the biggest smile (my son has tried that!), don't do it. Explain to him that since he didn't respond correctly he isn't getting a treat today. That will make him think twice before throwing a tantrum.

Also, if there is a time that tantrums routinely come, such as when your child has to come in from playing or before nap time, use reminders. Children handle things better if they have warnings. For example, 15 minutes before it's time for a nap, remind your child: "You may play for a few more minutes, then it will be nap time." Also remind him what will happen if he throws a tantrum. "Remember to not throw a fit or fuss or you will not be able to go outdoors when you wake up."

The best way to prevent tantrums from happening in the first place is to teach your children to control themselves. This can be done from an early age. If you teach this to your child before he is even a toddler, than tantrums will not happen nearly as much when he hits the "terrible two" stage.

Almost all toddlers will throw tantrums from time to time. The important thing is to not give in, and eventually they will give up.

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