Because the subject of compatibility is a very sensitive one, it tends to confront people, should they be asked: "Are you truly compatible with and for your partner?" It sort of makes the hair on the back of our neck stand up, as we cringe due to the figmentive flash of the reality that maybe we are not in a fully compatible scenario. Most people fall into love relationships for the wrong reasons, though many of them may last many years. The same applies for people who choose to go into business with another; compatibility is very important, in so far as having common goals and agendas not to mention trust. But first things first, that is, make sure you get into a relationship for the right reasons. I'm using the word right' loosely as a relative term. I mean right,' relative to the larger purpose you hold in your life. As stated, most people enter relationships for the wrong reasons to fill gaps, end loneliness, and bring themselves love or to have someone to love and these are some of the better reasons. Others do so to salve their ego, end their depressions, improve their sex life, recover from a previous relationship, or, believe it or not, to relieve boredom. None of these reasons will work in the long run, and unless something dramatic changes along the way, neither will the relationship.

We ought to take a journey back down memory lane into our past relationships and get Present to why we actually got involved with those persons. Is it just because we fell in love? Most of us will find it difficult to remember the exact reason why we actually started a particular relationship. We tend to only remember what we decided about the relationship and not what actually happened. What we decided is based on an emotional interpretation of what actually happened. For most people, love is a response to a need for fulfilment. So it is very easy to fall in love but extremely difficult to think in terms of the longevity of the prospective relationship. Too many warning flashes and signposts pop up and smack us in the face. The first analysis ought to be one of compatibility, and, the second, one of relativity. And, this also depends on what our bigger goals in life are.

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