by Francis Agbo

Created on: April 28, 2007   Last Updated: May 04, 2007

Relationships do fail. That's no news. It may also not be news that most often than not women are most at the receiving end. Well there is no use flogging yourself for your past failures. As a lady who has witnessed heart break you can start again but i will give you a list of five things you ought to know before you enter the next relationship.

A lot of girls enter into a relationship blindly. They set no boundaries and have no guiding principles. I should know because I am a guy and guys tend to bruise a lot of girls. Girls need to wise up to certain stuff about guys and dating which will keep them from being bruised and battered. Ladies try this for size and don't share them with the guys. Its top secret

1. To most guys dating means sex and to most girls dating means romance. Girls' dating does not have to end in sex whether it is the 1st date or the 1000th date except if the guy is already your husband. Guys look at dating as a means to an end (sex). If you are a guy and you are reading this, cuss me all you like but you know it is true.

2. Most guys are just looking for adventure. They only want a short term commitment and that is often where the problem lies because girls tend to look for long term commitment. A guy is just looking for another trophy to display to his pals. Hey girl you may just be another trophy he is waiting to be displayed before his pals. That is if you are foolish enough not to keep your legs closed.

3. We (guys) tend to honor' respect even protects the ones that refused to be conquered. A guy gets into bed with you and for him he has attained and so must look for unconquered territory and in the process even disdain his last conquest as cheap.

4. Guys often say I love you with the lips but not with the heart. We say it even when we do not mean it because (I do not know where we learned it) we believe if we can keep saying it long enough the girls will soon start believing it and be at our every beck and call. Guys you know this is true and for some of the ladies out there its time to wake from dream land and get into the real world. That stuff you chicks believe in is only the stuff that movies are made off.

5. Guys love to be in charge because we live in a predominantly male dominated world. Ladies I am not advocating that you should rule us. What I am saying is set some rules for yourself. Build some boundaries around you and let whoever wants to date you of such rules. People including us guys tend to obey rules if we know they are there and will be enforced.

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