by K Bert

Created on: April 26, 2007

Oh, if I would only know the right way! I must admit that my mother is not so crazy about my husband and a father of her grand children..

There is so many ways I have disappointed my mother. I did not continue my education like I should have. I choose to for a living something she never wanted me to. I moved to another country. And then to top it all of I married a foreign man.

I must admit that all this has created a strain in my relationship with my mother. My mother was a single parent and I don't really have any relations with my father so this has left my communication with my own relatives somewhat slim.

My grandmother still approves my choices and has told me many times that if I do what I love it is all that matters. It would be so nice to hear those words from my own mother too!

Yes we do co-exist. She sends presents for the kids and I give her the occasional polite phone call. But there is still this silent disapproval behind it all and I doubt that my mother will ever get over it.

I am little ashamed because of the way my mom acts considering that my husband has never done anything but acted polite and respectfully towards any of my relatives. It is not his fault he is not the boy next door I used to date as a teen and my mother wanted me to marry. Yes my mom has even told that to me in more than one occasion!

Thankfully my husband has more loving and open family and they have all accepted me and no consider me as close family member, no matter where I came from and what I do.

Well, we do not live in the perfect world and you have to do your own choices and live your own life, not the life someone else wants you to live, even if that someone is your own mother!

I'm hoping to be a different and more loving mother-in law one day when my own children have grown up and choose their companions. I know it can be a hard task but I shall try my very best!

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