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Dating in this day and time has become so complicated I say this because a lot of people especially young people do not know what it is to have a relationship. In my observance and listening to couple's talk I have heard some interesting things on why they are with whom they are with or why the man in their life it there. Some women even boost about how they can get men to "do whatever" they want to them to do by teasing or playing helpless. I do not agree with this I think you should be honest and first "know yourself" meaning that you should be secure in knowing who you are and you should love yourself and NOT! need a man to "define" or complete you. We all want someone in our life but we do not need to just "settle" for any old someone. We should take our time and get to know that person and I mean "really know them" see if they are bringing baggage from a previous relationship into this one. It is not as hard as it sounds mostly what you have to do is "listen" and not get caught up in the moment. There is an old saying that "everything that looks good is not necessarily good for you" and that is so true because what you see on the outside most times will not give you a clue what is going on the inside of that person. I feel a lot of people "rush" into relationships because they think they are getting older and will not have anyone or that they just have to have someone in there life right now! We used to call this "re-bounding" especially if you are coming out of a relationship and immediately want to go into another one. Some men have told me that they know when a woman is desperate and either will take advantage of that or will be completely turned off by it. Also there is still going around that there are more women than men and that if you do not get one then you will be left out and men tend to play on this fear. I still say ladies take your time and value yourself more and the men will value you as well. Respect yourself and the men have to respect you as well do not let them think you are "needy" and ask them deep questions if they are really the one for you they will appreciate you wanting to know more about them. If they are out to "play you" then they will get upset and go to the next woman you can afford to wait for the right man to come along for if you don't you can be in more misery than you ever can imagine.

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