The best way to avoid getting emotionally bulldozed is to address issues as they arise and not let them fester. I have been a victim of emotional bulldozing. One thing in particular was at home with my husband. HE tried to make me feel like I never did anything good enough. It was never as good as his mother's way. I in the beginning would get so emotional and I felt like I was slacking off but i soon realized that I was being railroaded. I ironed his clothes for him for the week, I laid his underwear, undershirt, socks, shirt and pants out for each day. I made sure he had breakfast ready in the morning and he had lunch packed and ready to go. I massaged his neck and his back for him, I had a hot meal waiting for him everyday. I would set up his dinner tray for him and beckon at his every call. His glass was always full, even if I had to get up when I noticed it was low and get him some more to drink (my food was getting cold). But remember I had two children as well. I made sure they had their homework done, they were bathed and were eating when he was. They had to be done with homework and bathed before he came home. Not to mention the fact that I had to pick him up and drop him off at work. Because I had to drop off the kids as well. I also paid all the bills and cleaned the house. This was daily for me. I was emotionally drained because he didn't appreciate it. There was always something I forgot or, I missed a spot someone, or the rice was a little overcooked. Or he had to wait 5 minutes for dinner when he got home. My mother always had this stuff done. She had the house spotless. She did this and that and the other. I had gotten so low in my self esteem that I was a walking robot for him.

I ran myself ragged trying to please him and the children all the while my needs where being swept under the rug. But one day I woke up and I realized that this was killing me. I had to regain my self control or I was going to literally waste away. The way to avoid this is to be honest and tell your family, friends or what ever what they can expect from you and what you expect from them. Develop a strategy to insure that no one person is being overloaded. This is will alleviate the emotional strain that can be caused when you are beginning ran over. Protect your emotions and feelings you are the only one who can do that. To be honest if you allow people to bulldoze you they will, take it from me.

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