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As a newly married couple, my husband and I were very much in love, and we were quite typical in our expressions of love for each other. There were the surprise notes and cards, the surprise phone calls, the surprise flowers and special "dates", and even the occasional surprise weekend get-away. All of these were very special and exciting.

As time went on and we were blessed with children and not so blessed with other responsibilities, some of these "bigger" surprises lessened in frequency, even though our love for each other grew. But with the lessening of these bigger surprises came an increased awareness of the importance of "small" surprises. These "small" surprises included things like my husband bringing me a glass of water after I was already in bed; a surprise "made-it-himself" cake on my birthday; a surprise trip to town without the children, allowing us to re-connect even while shopping; and my husband taking all of the children on a long walk to allow me time to regain my sanity after a hard day. None of these things are exotic or impressive or highly unusual activities in themselves, but each of them was extra special to me because I knew he did these simple things for me because he loved me.

The common denominator in all of the special surprises, both big and small, is the element of time. It takes very little time to say the words, "I love you." It's important to say those words regularly and often, but it's also important to spend time doing things for your mate, showing that you mean those words when you say them. Even the simple, everyday tasks, when done for your mate, can become expressions of heartfelt love. Expressing love is action. I am blessed to have a husband who continues to do these small simple things for me. Sometimes the simple actions can be significant expressions of love.

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