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Divorce comes easily and perhaps that trend brought with it the false sense of it being a good thing. Divorce tears two people apart and hurts children and other family members. The decision should not be taken lightly or assumed that it is the easy way out of a tough situation.

The decision seems much more clear cut where adultery, abandonment, or any form of abuse occurs. Even then reconciliation may be possible if the violator truly repents and changes their behavior. Incidentally, the Bible supports divorce in these scenarios.

Many times people decide to divorce because they aren't happy, can't get along, just don't love each other anymore, or can't come to terms with differences. These are excuses for divorce and can be overcome if both the husband and wife want to make the marriage work. In the end, if either party wants to leave, there isn't much the other can do to stop a divorce.

In making such a decision here are a few things to consider:
1) Is there a legitimate reason for divorce or is it the easy way out? Remember that any good relationship requires work.
2) Life isn't greener on the other side of the fence - single parenting is hard.
3) If you aren't happy in your marriage, you probably won't be happy single or in the next marriage either.
4) No person can meet all of your needs; we thrive with friends and in relationship with God.
5) In marriage you become one flesh - it's how God created us and it happens automatically. Divorce tears that one flesh apart. There isn't a nice clean break like we want to believe - it tears in a jagged line.
6) Divorce hurts and should be avoided if at all possible.
7) Life does go on after divorce and you can be healed emotionally.
8) Sometimes we don't want divorce, but it is the best option for us and our children. Sometimes another person forces it on us.
9) Seek wise counsel, pray, and know when it is time to let go and move on with your life.
10) If you must divorce, find support to overcome the negative impact on you and your children.

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