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A narcissist is someone who is in love with the idea of their perfect self. Whether they live up to this self or not is irrelevant to them. If you can; avoiding dealing with the narcissist all together, is your best bet.

Because the narcissist is only focused on themselves, things like other people and reality come in second. Therefore many will make statements that contradict themselves, lie, and generally lack empathy for others. It may not be their fault it's just how they are.

If you are willing to put yourself through it the following tips will help you communicate as smoothly as possible with the narcissist. At least avoiding a blow out of some sort. Such as an angry confrontation or complete alienation.

1. Agree with your narcissist-It doesn't matter whether their right or wrong, plus their not really paying attention anyway.

2. Avoid confrontation at all costs-that means letting lies and inconsistencies slide.

3. Don't pressure your narcissist or expect them to act the way a normal person would-remember who your dealing with and adjust your emotions accordingly.

4. Pile on the compliments-there is nothing a narcissist likes more than having their ego stroked, they don't even notice insincerity.

5. Don't get too close-the narcissist may need you for narcissistic supply, but intimacy will cause your narcissist to run, or lash out at you, to push you away.

6. Always be interesting and entertaining-because narcissists are wrapped up in their own little worlds, they feed off of others for insight and knowledge, to fill in the gaps of their lives, with bits and pieces borrowed from you.

7. Maintain your personal and emotional independence-remember who your dealing with, and safeguard your heart, to avoid getting it crushed.

If you have never dealt with a narcissist then the above advice is going to sound insane. If you have ever had a person in your life who left you bewildered, and wondering what was going on. You may want to do some research and find out what a narcissist is. Knowing what your dealing with can help make you feel way more sane, and stop questioning yourself. Although questioning yourself may be a sign that you are not the one with the problem. One other thing to remember is that narcissists are addicted to human attention, positive or negative. Which may explain some of the irrational behaviors you can experience with these people. There are many books and websites that go into this much more in depth. Good Luck!

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