by Gena Reddoch

Created on: April 17, 2007   Last Updated: May 07, 2007

Sharing chores in a blended family is even more important than sharing chores in a biological family. In order for each member of the family to feel valued, equal, and accepted, they need to have equal roles and responsibilities.

Children, especially, need to blend in. They need to feel that their role in the family is unique and important. Assign tasks that are age-appropriate, but that fill a true need in the household. For example, young children can empty small garbage cans, fold washcloths and small towels, and help to set the table. Older children can help wash dishes, do laundry, assist with yard-work, etc.

The most important aspect of delegating responsibility is fairness. Each member of the family should feel as though their job is as important as everyone else's, and no one child should have to do more than the others. A good way to ensure fairness is to assign chores on a rotating basis. That way, no one has to do a chore they really dislike forever, and everyone gets a taste of what the others are responsible for. Parents should be included in the rotation too, at least in part, so that the children have some appreciation for what they do.

The initial blending of families is not easy, and household chores are not much fun. However, working towards the common goal of a clean, comfortable home will give everyone a sense of pride and accomplishment and will serve to strengthen the family unit.

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