by A.R. Marth

Created on: April 15, 2007   Last Updated: May 24, 2010

Harpies, succubi, and unattainable women got you down?

Well, not all women will treat you badly. Here are some ideas to get you back in the saddle again, and feeling a lot better about your chances.

If you're bitter about a bad past relationship, leave it in the past. No, really. It's over. Other women are not responsible for the terrible things the last one did to you. If you need to, don't even date until you understand this in your bones.

If you're bitter about the lack of relationships in your past, once again, leave it in the past. The new women you meet are completely different people than the ones you met before. Don't expect the worst before it happens.

The first thing you can do is decide what your goals are, personally. Do you want to stay single? Do you want to be married? Would you like a friend (or two) with benefits?

Make these decisions before you take the next step.
The next step-deck yourself out. All the money you would be spending on dinner dates? Get yourself a great new watch. Get a haircut. Get your shoes shined. Get a tattoo, a tie, a facial scrub, a pile of awesome new movie posters for your walls.

Treat yourself well.
Make sure you have boundaries with the women you meet. Decide on your boundaries before you get involved with a woman. Be honest about your intentions.

If you've decided that you want to stay uninvolved, inform women you may date of this fact. If you may be available, let them know this, too.

The "nice guy" syndrome- always being the shoulder to cry on, while your female friend is involved with someone else- can be cured pretty quickly.

Stop chasing stupid women
You are expecting the women you are interested in to look past your physical appearance. Extend the same courtesy to them. Slick men who try to pick up attractive women they've just met are the reason guys like you have it so rough. Women are simply tired of it.

We know that men usually approach us because of the way we look. If you try to engage a woman's mind, she will be more likely to appreciate your company. Speak to women you find attractive as you would speak to anyone else whose company you enjoyed.

If you find that she is not intelligent enough to hold up her end of the conversation, talk to someone else. If she starts complaining about some jerk she's wrapped up with, talk to someone else. Excuse yourself from the conversation. Set your boundaries, and stick to them.

Women are human beings, and except for that one harpy that made you bitter, most of them

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