by Bob Trowbridge

Created on: April 14, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

I have spent a good deal of my life single and I have spent a good deal of my single life having trouble dating women. I don't know if I would call myself shy. I am very comfortable with people and at ease in just about any group.

But I am shy when it comes to asking women out. I lost my aggressiveness sometime in the past while I was still a child. I remember a woman friend of mine telling me that one of her friends was interested in me. The woman told my friend to give me her phone number. My friend said she shouldn't bother because I would never call her. She was right and that was a situation where I was really attracted to the woman.

The way I was able to meet and date women was to participate in groups that I was interested in. By doing this, I was assured that I already had something in common with these women. I could talk to them about our common interest. I didn't have to come up with any "lines" as one might in a bar or other public place. I could just talk to them and share our views. If I was interesting to talk to, she would be interested in me.

Frankly, in many of my relationships, the women have been the aggressors and that was fine with me. But we always had a minimum compatibility because we had gotten to know one another through a club or association that focused on our mutual interest. If you take a shy person and put them in a situation where all of the people are interested in the same thing, it's likely that they will not be so shy as they would if they were just trying to meet women in some other way.

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