Sometimes in life we fall in love and don't realize sometimes what we get our selves into. The past can be well... confusing as the present you can says sometimes. I fall in love when I was 20 with a man that is much older then me.. I could not believe that I found a man that would even like me cause lets face it I sure ain't no model or actress.. I am a simple women.. It all started before my 21 first birthday.. It would soon be an end of my youth

We had gone out a few times and had a great time, then he tells me that he liked me but he has to talk to me about his life.. So I said " I can handle anything shoot"
He begins to tell me that he has been married and has 3 children..Well I felt the lump in my throat.. I said wonderful what else can you say.. well to bring you up to the present we have been together for 6 years and his 2 kids live with us..

It was great for about 4 years then all of a sudden the ex-wife is causing problems the kids now have turned on me.. When there own mom did not want them they look at her like she is some god now and treat me like well you know crap..One is 13 and her attitude is well lets say it ain't the change of life.. The other one 9 and is destructive.. The ex wife has many other kids so my step kids think they can act like them and when you try to redirect they make up lies so we can fight..

I am stuck in a world of confusion. How far do you take love when you know that the other loves you but wont correct the problem.. I don't want to feel like I have wasted my life but in reality I just might have...

Being a step-parent is very hard at times. Being a parent in general is hard.There is no right or wrong way to raise kids, we don't have manual's that tell us how either. We have to do what we think is in the best interest for the child.

You have to tell your self is having nothing and being happy worth it or is having everything and being miserable worth it

A step parent is a big role to play... Sometimes you get lucky and sometimes you dont but only you know the right choice to make.. How far will you go ?

If I had to do it all again things would be diffrent in my case...

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