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When you have a child who develops an "I don't care" attitude, you must take action to motivate them. Here are some ways you can help them move forward.

1. Decide what is truly important. Don't try to force them to do things that don't really matter, such as cleaning their room with a toothbrush. If your goal is a clean room, decide upon a reasonable level of clean, and don't push beyond that point.

2. Ask them what they want. If your child is getting D's in history, ask them what grade they want to achieve. Most children do not want a D. Talk to them about the teacher, the homework, and all aspects of the class, and make an offer to them that you will do everything you can to help them be successful at the level they are striving for.

3. Make your expectations clear. Even though they may not want to achieve at the level you want for them, you can communicate your goals for them and arrive at a compromise.

4. Use consequences. Every child has something that will motivate them to succeed. If your child enjoys video games, use their video game time as a motivator. This is not a time to make threats, rather you should let them know that it is simply a privilege that must be earned. Be very specific about what actions the child must take in order to earn the time, and don't change the rules without having a meeting with the child to re-negotiate the plan.

5. Teach your child how to succeed. Sometimes a child will not attempt a task because they do not understand how to go about it, and they are embarrassed to admit their lack of knowledge. When you give your child a chore or task, work with them to show them how you want it to be done.

6. Praise your child for making progress. Even baby steps should be rewarded with praise.

7. Finally, be firm. Your child has certain responsibilities in life, and as they grow older, there will be more chores and more requirements in life. Teaching them how to be motivated will give them valuable life skills that will benefit them for years to come.

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