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There are several concepts to a happy and successful marriage. One of
the most important is effective communication. Sometimes people do not
say what they intended to say. Other times, people do not say what
they feel because they know that their mate will take it the wrong
way. As a result, communication becomes strained. Married people need
to learn how to effectively convey their thoughts and ideas to the

other person. Understanding from both parties is needed.

Many times, the focus is on helping husbands to understand their
wives, treating them with love and tenderness. However, wives also
need to understand how to talk to their husbands. A wife would not
want to talk in such a way that belittles their mate. Nor would she
talk to him like a child. This treatment will result in a negative
reaction from her husband. That can lead to other problems and the
possible disintegration of the marriage.

Communication needs to be clear. Neither person should assume that the
other one should know what was meant by cryptic comments or actions.
When there is any doubt as to the meaning of any form communication,
one should not hastily jump to conclusions and impute bad motives. One
person could be clueless and miss the point as to the true meaning,
while the offended person responds with pouting and some sort of
emotional punishment like the silent treatment. That will lead to even
more misunderstandings. If there had been a conversation in the
beginning, both might realize that there was a misunderstanding. Once
the problem has been identified, both can work to fit it and try to
avoid that from happening again. On the other hand ineffective
communication leads to frustration and is detrimental to the marriage.

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