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As I walked out of work into the April snow (only in Kansas!), my phone started its little sound that let me know I had a voicemail message. It was my oldest daughter's bf. Hi Lisa, it's SS. I need to talk to you. Please give me a call back." I knew there was a problem; usually he calls me mom. I call him my someday son (SS).I didn't call him. Instead I called my daughter. Apparently she was awakened at 6 this morning when she was torpedoed by her flying cell phone's had taken it upon himself to read her text messages. He read the ones from her friend T. now K1 and T truly are just friends. At this point.K1 admits that she is attracted to T and though he has confessed being attracted to her, "nothing has happened". The text messages were however, of a personal nature and admittedly somewhat incriminating.K1 maintains that even though she finds herself attracted to T, she loves SS and would never cheat on him. They have been together three years.

The issue here is the issue of privacy. Did he have the right to read her text messages if he believed she was cheating? The answer in my mind is an unequivocal and resounding NO! If he had doubts about the relationship, about her faithfulness, he should have simply discussed those doubts with her. Period. In my humble opinion, reading someone's texts, emails, snail mail, listening in on phone conversations, etc. is never, never, never justified in a relationship. It's a betrayal of trust. I know some people would try to justify it by saying that the texts in question, the relationship between K1 & T were both a betrayal of HIS trust. That very well may be so but there are some boundaries which just cannot be crossed. This is one. We have an expectation of privacy in our lives. Yes, even in relationship.

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