The only thing I have learned from parenting two teenage girls,(with another one reaching the teens in 10 yrs) is that nothing I say or do is going to help them.
I don't recall it being that hard on me when I was that age. Have times changed that much? Trying to be understanding is difficult because I really don't understand some of the things they are so concerned about. Clothes and possessions weren't that important to me when I was 13. Boys? They were okay but somewhat bothersome. Okay to play a game of kick ball with.
The only thing that keeps us talking is when I tell them that one day they too will look back and say "why was I soooo worried about what Kelly thought of my shoes?"
Oh, I don't know, maybe it was that difficult for me as a teen. It just so happened that what I tell them will happen actually does. I can't recall being upset about what other girls or boys thought. That is actually something that does come with age I guess. I just wish I could get the girls to realize that now so they could enjoy being young for a while longer.

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