by Monica K

Created on: April 06, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

Women. We can be so fickle, so sensitive, so naive, so trusting, and so insecure. If you have a significant other that you call "your man," then its safe to assume that somewhere along the line he was interested in you. However, those of us who were fortunate enough to be given a few extra doses of hormones (by the way, that would pretty much cover the entire female population) have a knack of questioning everything positive that happens in our lives just to seek out the negative. Then, we start questioning, "maybe he doesn't like me anymore," or "I wonder if he's met someone else," or "I wonder why he's mad at me." Simply questioning whether or not your "man" is still interested in you possibly indicates a deeper insecurity that should be addressed as a priority much higher than whether or not "he" is interested in you.

Addressing this question requires a woman to look at herself from the outside in. For instance, you must ask yourself, "have I made changes in my life that might have affected whether or not we would have been initially attracted to each other?" Not all changes that would affect your partner's interest are bad however, they might not be the qualities he seeks out in a partner. On the other had, sometimes we present ourselves differently as single women than we do once we are attached. For example, "Tabitha" and "John" have been together for six years. When they met, "John" had just received his MBA and had accepted a promising position with a key player in the software industry. "Tabitha," on the other hand, had been working as a CNA at a local retirement village for several years. Two years after they met, out of admiration for "John's" success, Tabitha was motivated to return to school with big dreams of entering Medical School. Tabitha successfully maintained a perfect grade point average throughout her undergraduate work and was looking forward to a successful future career. Although "John" never mentioned it to "Tabitha," he never yearned for an overly-successful wife/mate. "John" simply desired either a "stay-at-home mom" type or someone with a modest career, he just assumed "Tabitha" would continue to fit that profile. The more "Tabitha" succeeded, the more "John" withdrew himself from the relationship. "Tabitha" began questioning "John's" faithfulness, and his interest in her. "Tabitha" soon became so consumed with wondering why "John" didn't seem so interested anymore that her grades began declining. ATTENTION WOMEN: "Tabitha" is your

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