by Sarah V.

Created on: April 05, 2007   Last Updated: May 04, 2007

Abortions are not only a controversial issue in America, but it is a life altering experience for most people. Some adults who make this decision with the belief that they are doing what is right sometimes end up grieving over the loss they have endured; a teenager who makes the decision because she feels she is too young, or just to cover up is also afflicted by this huge decision of abortion. Grieving is a natural thing for people to do when life or death matters are concerned. When dealing with abortion issues the grief is just a strong.

Many people often misunderstand this grief because they feel like those individuals who have made the decision to abort are heartless and just did not care enough about the life that was growing inside of them; this is often not true, in fact most parents who make this decision usually are at the end of their rope and have no other options. The majority of couples, and single women make this choice after a great deal of thought. After the job is done these individuals are faced with the reality of what they have done, and most importantly what they are missing out on. Every time these see a newborn infant or young child they remember and grief over their loss.
The most important thing is to have the support of those around you and their comfort. Sometimes unfortunately this is not so, but we the witness will not be as hurt by the choice as the parents, especially the mother whom actually felt the life inside of her. One important thing to remember as a spectator is to try to be as empathetic as possible to the parents and try not to let your own personal bias's force you to pass judgment over another choices that may in no way affect you directly.
These situations need to be handled sensitively and at times open mindedly, because ones unsettled reaction can tarnish the relationship shared be it a mother, daughter, sister, niece or friend. Try to remember that if the thought alone hurts you; then the other person is definitely affected and it may in a form that you can not tell like psychologically or physiologically.

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