LOSER LANGUAGE,
There is a language being spoken all over the world by every race, color, and creed.
Perhaps you have heard of this language? Or perhaps you have even spoken it yourself? Does this sound familiar? WHY ME? I NEVER GET A BREAK! LIFE SUCKS! ITS NOT MY FAULT! I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM! I WILL NEVER BE HAPPY! IT'S YOUR FAULT! BETTER HIM, THAN ME! I CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT! I WILL NEVER SUCCEED! I DON'T TRUST ANYONE! THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN DEPEND ON IS YOURSELF!
Does any of this sound familiar? This kind of negative spew is what is affectionately known as " LOSER LANGUAGE'! The dead give a ways to recognizing when it is heard are: self-pity, guilt, dwelling in the past, failure to take responsibility, judgment, excessive anger, and hatred.
In trying so hard to control our lives we often miss the entire point of living. Where is the quality of life when it is spent chasing the unattainable, and unrealistic goals we set for ourselves! Or for that matter the unrealistic expectations we place on others?
Let's put this into material terms. You are the proud owner of a fast, beautiful car this is wonderful. What about the person sitting behind the wheel? Is he\she a person of real worth? Or just another accessory for this fast, and beautiful automobile? In fact who is driving whom? You, or the fast, beautiful car? I almost forgot to mention the fast, beautiful car's very large monthly payment.
Wonderful! You have a fast, beautiful car, and 2 jobs to keep the payments. You are tired, miserable, you don't socialize much, you don't get on well with others, and you are not the person you are supposed to be. But at least you have your fast, beautiful car!
Unfortunately the human soul does not recognize the value of your fast, beautiful car. For it is life itself that nourishes the best part of us.
You now say " what does my fast, beautiful car have to do with being a loser"? Well its very simple. Very few people in this world will actually live up to societies expectations. But the rest of us continue to try, and try, and try. All the while our own feelings of self worth begins to suffer. With our confidence eroding, we begin to make poor choices, and of course someone has to be blamed. This is when we begin speaking " Loser language". Life becomes one gigantic " I HAVE TO ", and many people end up feeling so badly about themselves. They begin to victimize others, be it verbally, physically etc. The end result is the creation of more low self-esteem, and of course more " loser language."
So now we have a very negative rat race going on (by the way, are any of you rats?) I didn't think so, but we still run this race anyway. People want to feel good about themselves, so naturally they want to win this race. Unfortunately, this race goes against our true needs of the soul (love, compassion, sensitivity, and understanding). This is the point in which we start to walk away from our true selves. And start to become deceitful, selfish, uncaring, and generally the opposite of who we are supposed to be. In order to win a race that we should not be running in the first place.
Now imagine a whole society of fake people chasing their illusions, and falling short. "WHY ME?" "ITS YOUR FAULT THAT IM NOT HAPPY!"". LOSER LANGUAGE! Then there are extremes, "I WOULD NOT BE SITTING HERE IN JAIL IF SOMEONE ELSE HAD NOT LET ME DOWN" Or " MY LIFE IS RUINED, BUT IT'S NOT MY FAULT!" excuses are like magic tricks, they are fancy, and entertaining, but contain no substance!
Life happens; we can either go with it, or be trampled under it. It's our choice. Yes bad things happen to good people, and again life goes on. We cannot control the attitudes, and actions of others. We can only change the way we view life. We can change
our perceptions from " Curse " to " Blessing" it's all up to us!
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, DON'T BLINDY FOLLOW, LEAD BY EXAMPLE! Stop looking out, start looking in, and be your own best friend!
Try asking God what he thinks of your fast, beautiful car, and all the shiny stuff that keeps us all slaves to the rat race?
There is way too much " Loser language" being spoken in this world today! Please do not add to this conversation!
As Joe dirt says " life's a garden DIG IT!"
COMMIT TO LIFE; GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE TO BE WHOLE!
God bless you