Parents don't know that some behavior problems that their kids develop are related to self-esteem matters. We make mistakes,and one mayor one is to anchor our kids bad behavior and criticize too often(some times in a daily basis)their mistakes. I often hear parent telling their kids These negative phrases: "You are a pig","You are a mess","You do nothing good","You liar",etc,etc...

We have to remember that our kids are not born done, we have to help them develop the capacities to succeed life. Communication is a MOST in self-esteem building and we have to be careful because if our communication is negative, we are developing a negative self-esteem child that will feel that he is not loved and completely dis-motivated to do sports,study, to socialize, to discipline and as a result,they are going to have many problems and we as well.

Instead of pointing our kids Their "mistakes" and telling every one what they do wrong, lets recognize their succeeds and their progress as they achieve their selves on their own pace. Thank them for cleaning their room, for picking up things for you, and for their good behavior, encourage them to keep on doing so! Eliminate negative nicknames that anchor a bad personality such as"lazy","piggy","dumbly",etc; kids believe they are what you call them and believe they are as you say so.

As we keep on pointing their good matters, our kids will concentrate in achieving them and will correct their bad manners and if they don't, is our job to help them to do so. Results, our child will be more confident and in control of him or her self, will develop a positive personality and we will be proud of them.

Remember to sugar your kid with love, patience and most of all you are the model, you can`t teach what you don`t live. The best project that we create in this world are our kids, so be a self-esteem builder! Start today!

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