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to the person they love. Once one begins to feel insignificant and unworthy, they will seek that significance somewhere else. Anyone they meet who makes them feel the least bit valued will draw them away from their home. It is not rocket science. People go into relationships to be loved, affirmed and wanted. If that is not happening, what is the point of staying in it? Marriage and relationships are not supposed to be life sentences. They should be enjoyable and fun; to bring out the best in us, especially in love and fulfilling our potential. We then feel significant; that we matter as people. Take that away and you rob your partner of his/her confidence and self esteem; the reason for their purpose and identity. There is nothing left to hold that person to the home, especially when they are being put down all the time.

So, which of those reasons are lurking around in your relationship just now? Which ones are you neglecting while you please yourself? Which ones are missing from your life and how does that make you feel? If your relationship is broken, which of those caused it?

If someone strays from home, you can bet your life that at least one of those four elements is the culprit. Taking time to answer those questions honestly might save your current, or next, relationship from becoming another statistic. Often people cannot talk about what is missing in their lives for fear of 'upsetting' their partners or having arguments. Rightly or wrongly, they take what seems to be the 'easy' way out and get what they seek outside instead, causing much pain and deception for the partner left at home. A tiny minority of people will stray, no matter what you do, because of their own low-esteem, insecurity and desire to prove themselves sexually. But paying close attention to those four factors could save an awful lot of heartache in most relationships.

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