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My husband took our kids on outings numerous times over the 10 year period with his main other woman. He could have taken them to the others, but I only know about her. He told them not to tell Mommy because "she would get very upset." It was torture for them for many years, particularly our son, to have to hold something like this in. He knew something was very wrong, but was way too young to process it. They were 2 and 3 when the adultery started, they are now 15 and 16. Our son doesn't remember anything about her because the outings stopped once my husband realized they were getting too old to keep the secret. I can't say that just because they don't remember, it did not adversely effect them. It most certainly did. Kids always tend to blame themselves, and this is horrible. In my opinion, it's really a cruel thing to do to involve kids with an adultery. Yes, I understand that some of the kids may have been friends before the adultery started, but some haven't been, and processing the thought of your Dad having another woman other then Mommy that he is affectionate with and spends time with in a way that is more then friendly, is wrong.

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