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I'm not going to give you the do's and don'ts of online dating. I'm not going into the safety issues and all of that garbage. You can find that anywhere on the net. I'm just going to say, don't even frickin' do it. There are two kinds of dating sites out there. The pay sites and the free sites.

The pay sites will take your money and promise you will find Mr. Right. The problem? One, Mr. Right doesn't exist. Two, they are using your desperation to make a buck. There are more horror stories out there about the pay sites than you can even imagine. One very well known site was even accused of getting people to pay for a membership by dangling false profiles in front of them. Like dating isn't hard enough without some pseudo man in the mix.

Then there are the lovely free sites. Yikes! Any idea who joins those d*mn things? The scum on the bottom of the already tainted dating pool. These are the users, the losers, and the abusers.

About 1 years ago, I joined Myspace. I joined because my 17 year old daughter had joined and it seemed a way to keep tabs on her. I filled out my profile and violla! I was ready to make friends. I did a search and realized that Myspace was being used as a dating tool much like online dating/personals sites. What was more, there were so many men in my area! I thought I'd found a gold mine! In my previous experience, there weren't many men in my geographical area. Myspace seemed like a windfall! Woohoo! I started adding friends. Male friends, mostly younger, just the kind I liked! A few months went by. Out of boredom I was doing yet another search and found a very, very hot man about 1 hours away. I sent off my friend request and was thrilled when he accepted. It was even more thrilling when we began to talk on IM on a daily basis. A few conversations and we set up our first date. It was awesome! He was awesome! For about a week. Then I drove to see him one Monday evening. Another great evening I thought. He even called me on my way home to make weekend plans. Next morning I got a "Dear Lisa" email and had been deleted from his friends list. Back to the drawing board. Back to the dating sites. Things got progressively worse from there. The emails were rude and ridiculous. Some of them were downright scary. Men sending pictures of their private parts, assuming I was desperate and looking for sex. Too stressful. Burnout would hit and I'd give it up for awhile, then I'd get brave (or stupid) and give it another shot. Same garbage, different loser.

It's still a stressful process. Only difference is, now I just don't do it. I still have a Myspace profile, but I've pretty much deleted my profiles on the dating sites. The men I've met recently, I've met out in the world. Yep, there are users, losers, and abusers there too. The difference? You get a real feel for someone you meet up close and personal. It's too easy for them to woo you with words online. You have a much better chance of really getting to know someone out in the world. Trust me. Give it a shot.

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