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for it, but if a parent is not wealthy but can spend more prime time developing and loving the child, it's a two edged sword. The biggest issue here is that parents are not always honest. They want to win, but they are not seeing the big picture. Looking beyond the winning of a custody battle, ask yourself what you can provide that you think the other parent cannot.

A parent with minimal income doesn't have to be of lesser value. Drawing out your plan so that the court can see clearly what you are offering the child in the way of a home, stability, and prime time with that child, well thought out and written down so that emotion doesn't get in the way, can help those with the least financial status to put forward the case for themselves.

3.Compromise

When dealing with a child custody case, many parents forget an area that is vital to that child's growth, and that is an area of compromise. It isn't the child's fault that their parents have a relationship that is broken, and even in a broken relationship, both parents can play a vital role in the future of the child if thought about wisely. Perhaps one works more than the other, and needs more time to devote to their career. It isn't a weakness. It's just a fact, and facing cold facts that surround both of you, talking about them and involving the child in the changes that are taking place can help tremendously. Tug of love kids grow up harmed. There is no doubt on that at all, and looking at possibilities together, trying to keep emotions and negativity out of the situation when the child is present, helps that child to understand that his/her parents both love him/her, and having the love of two parents, even if one will be absent from their daily life, matters to the stability of the child.

All too often, a child is used as a bouncing board between two relationships. The child visits the errant father and his girlfriend, the mother asks questions about the new lady. Although she may be jealous and insecure, what she is doing is driving a wedge between herself and the child that may not be apparent straight away, because the child's loyalty is to two parents. Children are actually much better at compromise than adults are and lessons could be learned from their innocent approach to it. They accept that people are not perfect, and can face the transition better than you think if adults decide to be adults, instead of broken people.

4.Deciding a way forward for a child with two parents.

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